Tuesday, January 19, 2010

Are We Teaching Our Young Men To Be Sex Crazed, Beer Drinking, Television Watching, Video Game Playing Slackers?

What are we doing to our young men?  Everywhere you look there are messages telling them that they are not needed and not valuable so they might as well indulge their basest desires and become sex crazed, beer drinking, television watching, video game playing idiots. 

We don't teach our young men to be leaders anymore.  We don't teach them to be disciplined anymore.  We don't teach them that they are needed anymore.

Instead, the constant message to them is that they are the problem.

For example, British Airways has implemented a policy which bans male passengers from sitting next to children that they do not know.


Because apparently all men are evil sex predators that children must be protected from.

But women are okay because women are safer and more responsible.

Unfortunately, the reality is that young woman are outperforming young men on every level.

Studies show that women now perform better at virtually every grade level from elementary school all the way through high school.

59 percent of all college students are now women, and the number of women who graduate from college in the U.S. is now much larger than the number of men who graduate from college.
So why is this?

The truth is that men and women need each other, but ever since the "women's liberation" movement of the 70s, women have been taught that they do not need men and that they do not need families.

In fact, now everywhere you turn women are taught that they are actually superior to men.

If you turn on the television today, you won't have to wait long to see how men are expected to behave in modern America - sex crazed, beer swilling, irresponsible slackers who cower before their more mature, more responsible and more dominant female partners.

It is in the younger generations where we see this trend really taking hold.  It has been reported that women in their 20s in the 10 largest cities in the United States now earn more money than men of the same age.

It is women who are viewed as the leaders, it is women who are viewed as the "go getters", and it is women who are viewed as the better hires.

The young men of today have been stomped on and marginalized for so long that they don't even know how to be strong, disciplined men anymore.

Many women who are still looking for a traditional "man" complain that all they find are overgrown boys who have given up, who have tuned out, who are slaves to their addictions and who won't take responsibility for anything.

If you talk to many young men today, you quickly get the feeling that they feel completely lost and confused.  It is as if they have lost something that they didn't even know they were missing. All their lives young men have been taught that they are most definitely NOT the leaders of the home, and that it should be expected that women will yell at them and tell them what to do.

Movies and television constantly reinforce this programming by bombarding our young men with the message that they are irresponsible subservient slackers who need to be corrected by the more responsible females.

You don't think this is true?

Just think about all the times you have watched a movie or a television show where a female character yells at a male character and gives him a good verbal chewing out.

And what do we do when that happens?

We laugh and we snicker.

But now take that same scene and flip the characters.

We would be horrified, wouldn't we?

And rightfully so.

So why do we think it is so cute when the female verbally abuses the male?

The truth is that we have taught a generation of women that they should lead and dominate men.

A shocking study done by the respected Pew Research Center confirms that in the United States it is the women who predominantly rule the home.

The study surveyed 1,260 individuals who are either married or who are living together. What the study discovered was that in 43% of all couples, women predominantly make the decisions in the four areas Pew surveyed: planning weekend activities, household finances, major home purchases and television watching.

26% of the time men make more of the decisions according to the survey, and 31% of the time the decisions are made "equally".

So should we be surprised by this?

Is it not obvious that the women wear the pants in most American families at this point?

For example, one respondent to the USAToday article about this survey wrote this:

"I am a manager at work, and wouldn't have it any other way. But when I get home, I'd much rather chill out and let the wife make the calls."

The truth is that we have trained a generation of young men to be immature, subservient, submissive wimps who are very hesitant to take responsibility or leadership.

So increasingly our young men, who have been told by society and by young women that they are not needed, are turning to addictions such as beer drinking, television watching, video game playing and online fantasies in an attempt to find the meaning that is missing in their lives.

Never before in American history have so many young men been enslaved by addictions. 

For example, more than 70% of all young men between the ages of 18 and 34 visit a pornographic website in a typical month.

In fact, 25% of all search engine requests are related to pornography, and pornography revenue is larger than all of the COMBINED revenues of all professional football, baseball and basketball franchises in the United States.

That is a problem.

Sure, some women are addicted to online fantasies, but their numbers are much smaller than men.

But that is not the only area where men are experiencing much more addiction than women.

Recent statistics show that about 7 percent of men are addicted to alcohol, while only about 2.5 percent of women are.

That is a huge difference.

So what is the solution?

We need to start teaching our young men that they are needed, that they are valuable, and that they need to start acting like men again.

But with women completely dominating most American homes, and with the entire education system pushing young men to be more like women and with the entire entertainment industry portraying men as weak, subservient idiots and slackers, the reality is that there is not much hope for a significant turnaround any time soon.

1 comment:

sdnsuper said...

Very good points. The bible say Ephesians 5:22 and Colossians 3:18 "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands". It goes on to say in Ephesians 5:25 and Colossians 3:19 "Husbands, love your wives". This does not mean that wives are inferior and husbands superior. The husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church and that is the order God has placed on earth to work through. Husbands should look after and give of themselves for their wives and provoke not their children. This is been responsible and what parents and more women / wives should be telling, teaching and encouraging the young men to be and act. Men should also be getting the message across as well.

God bless you all.